Stressed and proud? Frantic freelancers, you’re not impressing anyone

May 12th, 2011

You know those emails and status updates we frantic freelancers love to write about how we’re so busy juggling 11 assignments that we don’t know how we’re going to make it to Friday? We’re not helping ourselves — or our freelance friends — by playing the stress kitty. After reading a Women’s Health article on the topic, I blogged about this Stressier Than Thou phenomenon on Nine to Thrive yesterday. Here’s a snippet, complete with takeaways:

Don’t gloat. Stop bragging about how stressed and busy you are. It’s not impressive. Instead, you’re likely to repel those who’ve found better ways to cope with their own taxing schedule. Exude too much frenetic energy at work and you risk looking like someone who simply can’t handle the pressures of the job.

Don’t enable. The next time a friend or colleague boasts about their bloated workload, resist the urge to reply with, “I know. You should see what I have on my plate today. Seven meetings, a presentation I need to finish for next week, and a report due tomorrow morning. It’s madness.” Instead of playing the one-up game, say something like, “Wow, sounds like a hectic week for you. Any plans to relax after work tonight or this coming weekend?” In other words, encourage your pal or colleague to chill the heck out.

[Read the rest of this post on Nine to Thrive.]

Entry Filed under: Balance,She's the boss,This freelance life

3 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Angela C.  |  May 27th, 2011 at 7:40 am

    This is good advice. Sometimes I find myself getting irritated when I am busy with tons of different assignments and activities and others around me who are seemingly less busy, can’t help but share their stress blatantely and consistently throughout the day. This is a great reminder though that it is not a contest and honestly, it is much more admirable to cope well than to bring others down by venting too often about how stressed out you are.

    Angela :)

  • 2. Kalpana  |  June 17th, 2011 at 11:18 pm

    This is good advice. And, its exactly what we freelancers do to convince others and ourselves that we are busy. Sometimes we are, and sometimes we aren’t. Thanks.

  • 3. Jessica Chapman  |  June 21st, 2011 at 8:27 am

    Thanks for writing this article! It’s amazing how so many of us get caught up in the swirl of “busy”. Each day I ask myself “Is this urgent, but not important?” And then I loosely plan out my day to make sure I meet my goals for the day. Once those daily goals are met, I’m free to play. Yes, it took me work with my business management coach and life coach to figure out what those goals were, but once I got them, I can make them happen and feel awesome.

    Jessica Chapman, Founder & Creator

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